What is my most common style of dealing with conflict? HDIFAT?

 

What change are we facing in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to help us successfully navigate through the change we are currently facing? HDIFAT?

 

What has been the most significant change we have experienced during our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What is one thing I can do to improve the intimacy in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How does our extended and/or blended family affect our marriage relationship? HDIFAT?

 

What is one thing I can do to bring more fun into our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What is one thing I can do to move our marriage relationship forward? HDIFAT?

 

How has my family of origin (FOO) influenced our marriage relationship? HDIFAT?

 

What is my most significant memory when I think about “for better or for worse” in our marriage? HDIFAT?

Re-exchange vows (after Dialogue) 

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

 

My most meaningful gift I can offer you in our marriage is ___________. HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to make the holidays less stressful on our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What mask do I wear in our marriage? How do I feel when I take off this mask?

 

How has our marriage changed as a result of our participation in Retrouvaille and CORE? HDIFAT?

 

On a scale of 1-10 (w/ 10 highest), how would I rate the “fun factor” in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How would I describe the intimacy in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to improve a healthy lifestyle in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How do I feel about the trust between us in our marriage?

 

How well does our marriage reflect the 10 Commandments of Marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How can I best support you and our marriage through the tough times? HDIFAT?

 

Present your valentine to your spouse and ask him/her to read it. How do I feel after reading your valentine message?

 

What New Year’s resolution for our marriage will I commit to in 2018? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to make the holidays less stressful on our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How do I feel about members of our extended family?

 

What season of marriage do I think our marriage is in? HDIFAT?

 

What is one fear I have in our marriage relationship? HDIFATYT?

 

What can I do to enrich love and peace in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to enhance romance in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How have I experienced forgiveness in our relationship? HDIFAT?

 

What actions can I take to work on one of my imperfections (identify) to enhance the quality of our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

Write a special Valentine’s Day message to your spouse (like a love letter) telling him/her how much you love and appreciate him/her. HDIFATYT?

 

What New Year’s resolution for our marriage will I commit to in 2017? HDIFAT?

 

What one behavior can I change in myself to move toward a more loving and mutually satisfying marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What is one thing I can change to be fairer when we fight? HDIFAT?

 

What is one main difference between us that affects our relationship?   HDIFAT?

 

Now that I am aware of your primary love language, what is one thing I can do to connect with you with intimacy and fulfillment? HDIFAT?

 

Now that I am aware of your primary love language, what is one thing I can do to connect with you with intimacy and fulfillment? HDIFAT?

 

When “reality” set-in in our marriage, how did this affect our relationship? HDIFAT?

 

What attribute of yours am I most grateful for? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to make the holidays less stressful on our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

How has my family of origin (FOO) influenced our marriage relationship? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to offer you more encouragement in our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to intentionally bring more warmth to our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

A deposit is anything positive and security-producing that gives your spouse energy. A withdrawal is anything sad or negative that drains energy from your spouse. 

Question: What are some of the ways I can make more deposits into your emotional bank account? HDIFAT?

 

What can I do to make our marriage my top priority? HDIFAT?

 

What is the single most important thing you have done to support the reconciliation of our marriage? HDIFAT?

 

Which of your personal attributes do I value most? HDIFAT?